“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person–without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.” -Osho
I read this quote by Osho recently and I couldn’t believe how it rang so much truth to me. With dating and relationships each one teaches you something new. Matter of fact ANY kind of relationship you have with someone teaches you something new. But the main thing I really believe is that you should always love yourself first so you do not expect the under compensation of your love to yourself from others. In other words, so you don’t look to others, especially a significant other, to fill a gap you are missing within yourself. In my experience, it is always the gaps that lead to the downfall of a relationship. I believe in filling the gaps and truly loving yourself first before you can understand what it’s like to love another. Another person should not MAKE you. They should just add to a better you. Only YOU can make you better.
I’m cherishing each time I get alone time because it’s teaching me to become my own best friend and to truly know that I am enough and that I’m happy with who I am and what I have to offer.